Key skills for school & life
Listening and
co-operating
What are listening skills and how are they linked to co-operating?
Children’s listening skills take time to develop. Listening is not just about hearing (but a child’s hearing may also need to be checked). It’s also about how the brain interprets information. Children also need to be able to follow instructions and co-operate with others. It’s important to be realistic. Young children often find it hard to follow an instruction, especially if it’s new or something they would rather not do (like tidy up their toys). They also need to be able to communicate their own emotions and ideas in socially appropriate ways. There are positive ways to help your child become better at listening, communicating, and co-operating.
Why are listening skills & co-operation important?
Being able to pay attention and get along well with others are important skills
for children to learn. If kids find it hard to listen and follow instructions,
and be co-operative, it can make school, friendships and life in general more
difficult. But with loving, caring, positive support and a consistent approach,
children and teenagers can get better at listening, following instructions, and
developing the skills they need to succeed.
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Listening and co-operation are skills that take time to develop
Why do kids need help learning to listen, communicate and co-operate?
Most children need a lot of practice and encouragement to listen, pay attention,
and follow instructions, and to learn new behaviours. Children may simply be
tired, hungry or feeling unwell. They may also be trying to figure out what
happens when they do or say something in a new way. Or they may be reacting a
certain way because of something that happened previously. Maybe they just need
more time to process what you’ve said. The timing of instructions is also
important.
Most toddlers and young children are defiant at times. This is only a problem
when it happens regularly—for example, if your child follows less than half the
instructions you give them, especially if they are also doing the opposite of
what you’ve asked, arguing, or demanding.
How can i help my child develop listening skills (and co-operate more)
- Try to increase opportunities for positive encouragement of listening and communication skills. You might try listening to music or audio books with your child. Reading to children each day also has many benefits – even when they’re old enough to read themselves.
- Find out what’s realistic to expect at your child’s age and stage of development. You may be using a parenting style that worked when your child was younger, or with one of your other children, but isn’t as helpful in this situation.
- Give your child opportunities to be independent and feel good about themselves, and encourage them when they express their thoughts and ideas. Brief conversations where you take turns listening and talking about your day are simple, but effective, ways to encourage these skills.
- Learn some new techniques if things aren’t going well. It can be frustrating or confusing for a parent or caregiver if a child doesn’t seem to listen or co0operate. Over time, if repeated, this can create a cycle of poor communication that doesn’t help improve a child’s listening skills. Positive strategies are needed to change the situation.
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Help your child develop listening skills
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